4 Steps to stay married

4 Steps To Stop Your Divorce And Save Your Marriage

The break up of marriage is one of the worst things that can
happen to a person, and it is all too common. More than half of
all marriages today will end in divorce. When you consider that
divorce is commonly regarded as one of the most stressful events
that can happen in a person's life, even beyond the death of a
dead one, and it creates a lot of heartache.

The thing you need to know is that it is not too late to stop
your divorce.

The tragedy is that most of these breakups could have been
prevented. You do not have to be one of those statistics. You
can do something about it; you can stop your divorce. Maybe it
is not going to be easy, but it is possible. You just have to
follow the steps to rebuild what has been broken.

You can't expect to stop your divorce without a plan anymore
than you can expect to build a house without blueprints.
Fortunately, the help is available and it behooves you to take
advantage of it. Your marriage does not have to fail. You can do
something.

Step One: Identify the Problem

You can't stop your divorce if you don't know why your marriage
is falling apart. You need to diagnose what is wrong with the
marriage, even if it means sitting down with your spouse to find
out what the problem in your marriage really is. The reason most
marriage problems don't get solved is that they are never
identified

Step Two: Fix the Problem

Once you have pin-pointed the problem---sole it! In many ways,
this is the most important step. If you can't fix the problem,
then you can't stop your divorce. Most problems can be fixed.
What you need to do know is work with your spouse to make the
compromises that will save your marriage.

Step Three: Remember the Good Times

You're going to need to remind both your spouse and yourself
what brought and kept you together to begin with. No matter how
bad your marriage has gotten, there was a point when things were
good. You should try to relive that and always keep in mind that
it did exist.

Step Four: Start Over

The last step in your quest to stop your divorce is to begin all
over again. You need to look at your marriage as a brand new
marriage. While you should keep the good times in mind, you need
to forget the bad times and learn about your spouse all over
again. Things have changed, and you need to accept that. Make
your marriage work with the person you are married to, not the
person you used to be married to or the person you wish they
were. Accept them as they are, and work together to build a
better, stronger marriage.

If you follow these four steps, you will be able to stop your
divorce. If you need more help, then don't be afraid to look for
it. There are systems out there to help fix what is broken in
your relationship, and you need to be willing to use them.